Friday, July 20, 2012
Sexual Attraction.. Is it fair to Cheat...
It is a beautiful day today in the Mountain Valleys of the Rockies and I bring you salutations as I sit holding a cup of freshly brewed coffee; its scent filling the room and its warmth taking the chill off my body.
The morning air was fresh coupled with a light warm rain as I rode the Harley down the mountain to begin my day at 5:00 A.M. this morning. As the rain played gently with the bike and myself, my mind began wrestling with the concept of attraction….
Attraction, it definitely wasn’t a rain soaked biker looking more like a drowned rat than an object of anyone’s desire. So what was it?
We have talked a lot about relationships. What drives them? What motivates them and even rules about how to keep them? We have even talked about arousal states and how “Bad Boy’s” attract but are rarely keepers…
In the “relationship game”, we often focus on the development of “trust”, the giving of “respect” and the “power” of love. But, what really drives one into the arms of another?
Some say it is all a matter of the “heart”. Others say love is a “choice” and a matter of the “brain”. Well, recent studies indicate it may be a matter of the “nose”. Yes, you heard me right the “nose”…
It appears we all have an organ located just inside our nasal cavity called the VNO – (vomeronasal organ). Its primary purpose is to detect Pheromones. Powerful airborne chemicals we produce that stimulate our interest in the opposite sex, sort of a call for mating.
This organ detects trace amounts of pheromones and stimulates the limbic region of the brain, which many believe is the area of the brain that is responsible for our emotions and in turn, “sexual attraction”.
As you may have already guessed, with this discovery of our “natural” process in “mate” selection and willingness to submit to “breeding”, someone was going to cash in and market it. True to form, there has been a rush to simulate this natural process.
The challenge is to figure out how to manufacture what we do naturally as a human attractant… and of course enhance it…. Like an expert angler baiting the trout to take his fly, only for it to be reeled in on a light line… Now, would that be a product or Not?
The question is, if you had the ability to use a product that blended our four most powerful pheromones would you use it? Would you use it to not only replace your natural levels but to boost them to such an extent the concentration was unavoidable? Would it be fair? Would you trust the results…?
Is it really all about chemicals and less about the intenseness of the moment and the chance meeting of locking eyes during a rain soaked passing…? Is it really less about the chanced touch or the gentle kiss? Or is it more about enhancing the “fly” and if it is, isn’t that more about “catch and release”?
No, I don’t have the answers. I’m just that rain soaked biker winding down the mountain road thinking “old school” isn’t such a bad idea after all.
Until next time take refuse in the fact it is all about choice…. I’ve made mine… Now go make yours…. Life gives us those opportunities to have choices as well as the responsibility to make them….
As you ponder what life has thrown you, remember not all mountain streams are the same and sometimes not everything that bites your bait is what you want to keep….
Sometimes it is just better to keep them off the hook...